Sunday, December 20, 2015


I think one of my biggest flaws is having a high degree. It keeps people away, or if I want to make it more specific, it brings men away. There, I said it. Even if I do not care about people's degree, it matters for men or their parents. To be fair, what important for me is not other's degree but rather their perspective on co-management and later on, co-parenting. I do not appreciate views about kids is for mother and not for father. Cleaning the house is for woman and not for man. So if finding a man who accept woman with higher degree is already difficult, adding it with equality doubles the difficulty.

In a way, this is about culture. When I was leaving abroad, it easy to find men taking care of their kids without having women in sight or doing household activities. I also have female friends who has higher degree than men. In Indonesia, it is quite rare to have these situations.

Being a PhD candidate allows me to do things that I love. It is not a matter of smart or not. Every time I meet a new person, most of them think that I just graduate from undergraduate since I am so clumsy. I can get lost anywhere not only in the streets but also in the building. I do not watch television so people may find me odd. But then since I am introvert I do not really care about what other people think. I like when people like me but I am way pass the pleasing people phase.

So as Dr. Seuss says: 'I am weird, you are weird. Everyone in this world is weird. One day two people come together in mutual weirdness and fall in love.'

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